In Christ Alone


I was writing on instagram and just felt like I needed to be able to tell the WHOLE story and not have to worry that it was too long for instagram. So i am blogging…hahahhhaha i know…shocking.

I want to kinda share what the Lord is doing in my life. About a week and a half ago I posted on IG Ps. 48:14…”For this GOD is our GOD for ever and ever; He will be our guide even to the end.” And I shared in that same post this…”Shane and I have entered the stage of ‘unknown steps’ in our life.” If you remember, I had just come back from speaking at Selah over biblical wisdom. Shane and I  felt like the Lord was stirring our hearts so much. I got home and knew the Lord wanted me to continue with my study of wisdom. He led me to James 3:13-18 where it talks about genuine wisdom and that wisdom comes from heaven  and is pure, peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy, and good fruit, impartial and sincere…..and it ended with peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.

I have been chewing  on these verses ever since. Studying and trying to understand what it means. Praying I would have these attributes. Praying that as I continue to draw closer with the Lord, that HE would speak very clearly about every step I should take.

Wisdom, Wisdom, Wisdom…….

So this past Monday morning I woke up and man my chest was so tight. Like anxiety tight. And I am not a worrier so it’s not often that I wake up like this. I have been sick as a dog with these stupid Arkansas allergies and thought that had something to do with it.  But by the time I got to school, sat down, and opened my bible I knew I was either covered in unconfused sin or down right being disobedient to the Lord. I knew the feelings from previous issues. This was bigger than allergies.

So I started writing in my prayer journal and for some reason our big june Colorado vacation came forward like big flashing lights. I wrote the following in my journal…. “Lord I am feeling very uneasy about our Colorado vacation. Is this what you want of us? Father show me that this is your will or we will cancel point black. I will obey you. Something doesn’t feel right and I don’t understand but God i don’t think you want this. Is this a no? It’s no big deal I just want to obey you.”

By the time I finished my praying and reading the Word I knew what I needed to do. I emailed Shane and said that the Lord had told me to cancel our trip. Like that very day.

And in God’s beautiful way of doing things in marriage, Shane responded with…..” He told me the same thing last week “. WHAT?????? Amazing right. Well, that afternoon he called O Bar O in beautiful Durango, Co and that was that.. Done. No more 2 week vacation, no Sante Fe on the way home, no cute cabin steps away from trout fishing water, no ATV rental, no eating at new places and no Colorado junkin. I mean, we booked it all in JANUARY for JUNE! Canceled.

And I have never been so relieved in my life. I can’t explain it and I have no idea what God sees that we can’t see but I know that if I had lied to myself……if I just ignored the Holy spirit speaking to me then I would not sleep another peaceful night. And many of you might be reading this and think “well big deal. so you’re not going on vacation” but it isn’t about that for me. It’s that motto of just because you can doesn’t mean you should. Obedience. obedience. And whether God knows that all that money spent might be needed for something else or He sees that we could be in danger, or He desires for us to go somewhere else……….whatever it is…..




And biblical wisdom gives us the ability to know, understand, respond in ways that our earthly flesh would have thrown a HUGE FIT, ignored GOD, talked ourselves into believing that just because we have the money that we know better than God, or turned and yelled back at God “NO”.

Biblical wisdom yields. It stops and pleases God over personal desire. It is submissive. It is peace.

And biblical wisdom is a gift from God. So since Monday I have fallen in love with the Lord all over again. He had us HALT for a reason. And that info is all in the dark to me for now.  I do know that He loves us enough to be honest and to speak not only to me but also to my husband. Biblical wisdom allows us to be tuned to the Holy Spirit. That is what it means to be in Christ alone, you know. So this is what I know to be true……


-His WISDOM is breath to me.

-My satisfaction in HIM is my freedom.

-My obedience to HIM defaults/trumps every presented decision or choice.

-Darkness doesn’t scare me. I take the step anyway.

-His boldness/confidence in me allows me to listen, digest, and respond despite what seems crazy to others.

-Resting in obedience to HIM and not leaning on my own understand is my safety.


So like I said when I started this post, we have entered the stage of “unknown steps” but we just took step one. Don’t know what that act of obedience will result in or why God said no or what else is to come. BUT I DO KNOW that God is so good. He desires our supreme good. And like Dr. Roseveare wrote about being a living sacrifice……. “To be a living sacrifice will involve all my possessions…..All should be available to God for the furtherance of His Kingdom. My money is His..He has the right to direct the spending of each penny….I must consider that I own nothing. All is God’s and what I have, I have on trust from Him, to be used as He wishes”.

Father, I believe every word of this. And I want this. I want your presence, direction, guidance, protection and blessing in my life. In my marriage. Thank you that you pick up our plans and throw them to the wind. And yet every piece falls just so. They land exactly where you tell them to.  I’m so thankful you are teaching me so much in this season. Wash your wisdom over me. Empty me out and fill me up with your fullness. Continue to guide our every step Lord so that it brings you much glory. In Christ Alone. For the Glory of God. I love you. Thank you for this week.  Amen.


Can you believe this! It feels so good to be back in the writing mode. It’s God, only God, that could reveal deep and hidden things to me and wake me up in the night with His word and ideas and encouragement to get back to blogging. It feels so fulfilling y’all!! I just overflow when He is teaching me and speaking through me!


I’m going to jump right in with this. I am hoping most of you are coming from Instagram/Facebook and have been walking with me these last few years of not blogging. You will notice I am no longer It is still up and if you are new to my life you might want to go and read. But most of you are still in my life, which I am so grateful for, so I can just pick up where I left off.

This space will just be me sharing. Everything else will remain for Instagram. I love IG because it’s fast and fun and of course I love sharing pictures. Now I will be able to share deeper here and not have to write super long posts everywhere else. I am so excited!


This space is for the glory of God. Just like my title says. The picture, in my header, was taken by my husband one morning. He wanted to do a painting of me in my quiet time space…..which I think is so sweet and amazing…. and when I was looking for a header photo they all seemed to not fit what this space is for. That was until I came across this picture of me, with crazy bed head, coffee with too much creamer in it, and the Word. How perfect for a space that won’t be about my daily life but the major things I’m learning. It just seems to set the tone and I am so glad he captured that moment! Here is the finished painting. It’s absolutely amazing.


I gotta tell you that I’m overwhelmed that Father would bring me back to this place of sharing. It’s something I have come to have deep respect for.  It requires a lot of time, transparency, and hard issues. But obedience always trumps what is comfortable. Obedience never leaves you empty, regretful, alone… ALWAYS fills you up, builds your courage, and lavishes you with His blessings. As always, I type like I talk. Grammar was never my thing. Most of you know that by now ha!!!!! So if you could show me some grace and mercy in that area I would sooooooo appreciate it! ha! seriously!


I have said this before but feel the need to say it again….I could care less if many read this. I need that to be stated up front. I’m not looking for human praise, I don’t want glory, I don’t want to make money of this space, I don’t have some kind of codependency issue that requires attention….I just want to get back to encouraging others, pushing others to grow in the Word and be pushed myself to seek after the kingdom of heaven.  I’m so overjoyed that the Lord has said it’s time for Him to use me again.


So welcome to Caroline Hughes Beyer…… For the Glory of God.

I hope you will enjoy this space and I hope I can minister to you somehow.


1 Corinthians 10:31
“So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God”



Did you read that? “There is no bigger mark of insecurity than selfishness”…


This photo was sent to me from an old blog friend back at the beginning of the summer. About the time I was waist deep in coworker issues, family issues, and about to explode with dealing with selfish people. It seemed to be everywhere Shane and I turned. Just suffocating us to the point of crazy.

I’ve got to be honest with you, the minute I read this quote I followed it up with these words in my mind…..”That is so (her, him, them)” then i said,   “I sure wish a these people would read this quote, take the hint and stop making us all crazy”.

Within minutes of saying the statements above, the Lord spoke to my heart very clearly. “So this is HER/THEM/HIM, but what are you going to do to make sure this doesn’t become YOU”.





He was right. It was getting on me and I couldn’t shake it. I’m a dealer personality and I could see that I wasn’t dealing with these feelings that were building up in me. I was about to tail spin.

So I did what I always do….I studied and researched and prayed. I felt like I needed to understand the mind of a person that is suffering from deep insecurities. I needed to be able to get to the root of the problem before I could figure out a plan to make sure I didn’t find myself in this deep pit like them.

It seemed appropriate to stay with Beth Moore and go back through her great book So long, Insecurity: You’ve been a bad friend. Great read! The entire book is based on of Proverbs 31:25 “SHE. IS. CLOTHED. WITH. STRENGTH. AND. DIGNITY.”


One of the very first things that jumped out at me was this statement…. “All INSECURITY is a cover-up for unbelief.”

And it makes sense to me.  If we are so insecure, have turned completely inward, smelling of selfishness… then it has to go back to those feeling of…

1. God isn’t enough for me

2. He says He’ll supply all my needs but the truth is that I want what they have and to me He just doesn’t get it. I need to have material things, or emotional needs, or financial needs met like her/him/them.

3. I want to know God and be different but I really doubt things will change. He isn’t that big or mighty or important.

4. I have seen those that say they love God. But between you and me….they aren’t different. God doesn’t really do anything and his word isn’t powerful- everyone is just acting.



These statements, we make in our head, mean we don’t really understand Calvary and we really don’t understand God. Who is He? What has He done for me? Who does He say I am? What is it that He is capable of doing in me? Why would He change me? All those things point you right back to the Word. And most of us know by now, that to answer these questions we have to go searching for them…alone…not dependent on others. Working out our own faith.


Another passage that I found powerful was…

“Pride is dignity’s counterfeit. Never lose sight of that. We don’t forfeit our humility in order to get over INSECURITY”


Let me put this is my words……Humility grounds us in the understanding that God is supreme. And we are not. Humility keeps us in our place. It allows us to praise God when He blesses us  and to run to Him when we are afraid. We understand that His hand off of us would be devastation. So we desire to obey and seek His face. It says that pride is its counterfeit. That is so true. So it’s like the super insecure person doesn’t turn to their knees and say “Father I am in need of you. Help me.”….no they turn to themselves and say “I am the very best. I know that isn’t really true but I will work hard and get these things and that job and wear those clothes because I DESERVE IT. I really do. The Lord is not listening and not blessing me. Doesn’t He, and others, know that I am so wonderful? Well, I’m tired of waiting for Him to move, so I’ll just move myself. I’m tired of feeling like last place. So i will just depend of me. I can make this happen faster anyway.” And there it is…they pick up pride and lay down humility all in order to overcome INSECURITY. So the selfishness sets in and they become more and more alone and unhappy. Driving others far, far away.


Beth continues saying, “God didn’t just confer (bestow) dignity to us. According to Psalm 8:5,  He crowned us with it. ‘You made us a little lower than you yourself, and you have crowned us with glory and honor.’   To possess dignity is to be worthy of respect. Worthy of high esteem. Absorb this: you are worthy of respect. So am I. No matter how foolish insecurity has tried to make us feel, we have the right to dignity because God Himself gave it to us. If we really believed this truth, we wouldn’t have to mask our INSECURITY with pride. If we knew who we were and what God has conferred (bestowed) upon us, what everybody else thought of us would grow less and less significant”…….


Wow!  Do you see how all this craziness of INSECURITY goes right back to NOT REALLY UNDERSTANDING GOD. The scripture says it right there “You have crowned us with glory and honor” and again in Proverbs 31 “SHE. IS. CLOTHED. WITH. STRENGTH. AND. DIGNITY.” Those are amazing/beautiful/LAVISH gifts that He has blessed us with as children of God. But we all know you can’t serve two masters. So it asks the hard questions:

* Do you really believe in God?

* Have you really experienced redemption?

* Does He live and rule in your heart?


Beth …..”Notice that God didn’t put this honor/dignity in our hands. He put it on our heads. He wrapped it as a crown right around our minds, just where we need it . Our possession of dignity is not always something we feel. It’s got to be something we know. Something we emphatically claim.”


You see these people in our lives, that cause such chaos and uproar, aren’t evil. Again…THEY ARE NOT EVIL. They are lonely. They are blinded. They are without a vision. They don’t really know what God is about and how big He is. They have bought into satan’s lie that their earthly body can do and have it all. They believed satan. So they stop talking to God and start living for self. They stopped FEELING the dignity Christ has crowned us with because they never learned what having a dignity crown was all about. Maybe they have never sought out the Lord. Maybe they became believers and then played the game. Said the right stuff but produced zero fruit. But now they find themselves  bondage/enslaved to their own pride/selfishness/INSECURITY and emptiness, but pretending they have it all together. Empty eyes, cold heart, little laughter. Sold out to a worldly life.


We get so, and I MEAN SOOOOOOOO, turned off by these types of people. I am speaking for myself really. You see them in all their mean-spirited acts, selfishness of others time and money, you catch them in their millions of lies, and you see how they use others…like flat out take take take and never give anything back. Your stomach turns and you want to flee. Because if you could cut them out of your life, everything would be soooo much better. Right? Ever heard this saying “Satan dines on what we withhold from God.” Not sure who said it, but isn’t this the truth. Our “insecure people” that we deal with don’t need us to run away from them, they need us to pray for them. That God would show them how He sees them. So we have to search and dig deep, moving our own pride, and asking God to help us pray over them with a powerful faith.


Philippians 2:3-8 says “Do nothing from factional motives [through continuousness, strife, selfishness, or for unworthy ends] or prompted by conceit and empty arrogance. Instead, in the true spirit of humility (lowliness of mind) let each regard the others as better than and superior to himself [thinking more highly of one another than you do of yourselves]. Let each of you esteem and look upon and be concerned for not [merely] his own interests, but also each for the interests of others.”


And this is where it gets kinda hard. Because we have dealt with these people for years and we are tired. Hard to desire putting their interest above our own. We want them to just leave us alone. But if we are actively seeking the Lord we know…..let me say this agian….WE KNOW that God’s word is what we obey. Point blank. Requiring us to go back in the depths of our heart and ask God to start doing a reconstruction of our current feelings, our actions/reactions, and our frame of mind so we can serve them somehow. So that despite all their heartache they feel and bring to others….we are still being used and God is still glorified.


2 Timothy 2  The Message.  “Run away from (flee, put off) infantile indulgence. Run after (pursue, put on) mature righteousness—faith, love, peace—joining those who are in honest and serious prayer before God. Refuse to get involved in inane discussions; they always end up in fights. God’s servant must not be argumentative, but a gentle listener and a teacher who keeps cool, working firmly but patiently with those who refuse to obey. You never know how or when God might sober them up with a change of heart and a turning to the truth, enabling them to escape the Devil’s trap, where they are caught and held captive, forced to run his errands.”


Did you really read that?  I love  how this version stated the last sentence…”You never know how or when God might sober them up with a change of heart”. And that right there is why I am writing this massively wordy post!!

“You never know..”



Pure hope based of what I know of God. Faith, knowledge and personal experience that God can change them. All the while He is changing  me. Because there is not a mountain that He has put in front of me that He did not make me fully equiped for.

I don’t have to run away from these people. I have to love them.

And honestly I’m not sure how that will play out.   But I believe God.


There is an old praise song “I’m coming back to the heart of worship and it’s all about you, it’s all about you Jesus” you all know it. Well, the end says this “I’ll bring you more than a song” … and while writing this post I have found that God doesn’t want me to just bring to Him a song.

My greatest worship to my Creator is how I choose to live my daily life yielded to him and how I treat others. How I act and seek Him when my nerves are about to be fried and I want to tell that selfish person to just “STOP IT” or “GET OVER YOURSELF”….but I don’t. I keep my mouth closed. And I pray.  That is worship. When I can’t see change but still continue to faithfully pray over them. That is worship. And when my heart stays tender to the things of God and my joy is full in Him…no matter what is going on around me. That is worship.




I will close with one last quote from Beth that I find so powerful.

“As long as we live, our self-absorption and our insecurity will walk together, holding hands and swinging them back and forth like two little girls on their way to a pretend playground they can never find. Human nature dictates that most often we will be as insecure as we are self-absorbed. The best possible way to keep from getting sucked into the superficial narcissistic mentality that money, possessions, and sensuality can satisfy and secure us is to deliberately give ourselves to something much greater…[Christ] showed us that giving, rather than getting, is the means to receiving…to find yourself, your true self, you must lose yourself in something larger.”― Beth Moore


Father I praise you for this blog. I can’t even believe you would call me back to this. May your words speaks. Oh Lord, I don’t ever want to be this person that I had to write about today. I don’t ever want to live my life so far apart from you that I seek to satisfy me and no one else. And I often just want to tell them or set them straight because I grow weary of doing good.You knew I would. That’s why you put it in your Word. Shine your light through me. Thank you that you give us hearts with deep discernment. You give us the ability to know when they are lying and not being real. You see hurt and the anger they cause. You see the stealing and the pretending. You have not made me the heavenly police so I yield to you fully knowing that you will set all things in order to bring you the most glory. You will not let it go on forever. That makes me rest in you. I love you Lord. What a joy it is to write for you. Make these words sooooo full of your fragrance and send it out to turn others back to you. Oh I love you. I love you. In Jesus name.